WORK WITH ME
Conquer unhealthy behaviors and limiting beliefs.
Get the happy and healthy relationship you've always wanted.
Individualized Relationship Coaching helps you break out of unhealthy relationship patterns and cycles and start becoming the person you want to be for the person you want to be with. As your coach, I offer unconditional support as you navigate the difficult process of shedding the old and making room for the new.
Healthy relationship patterns and boundaries take practice, but with proper support and accountability, they become not only easier to do so, but possible.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will coaching work for me?
I have worked with clients of all genders, ages, sexualities, religions, races, cultures, and backgrounds, from the U.S. to India. Anyone can grapple with relationship problems—and anyone can learn better habits of relating with some support and accountability.
If you'd like to learn more and get a sense of how we might work together, send me an e-mail!
What about if I'm single?
I've worked with individuals who are single, separated, divorced, as well as those who are dating, in monogamous relationships or marriages, in "situationships," as well as poly/open/ethically monogamous relationships/marriages. I work on meeting you wherever you are, regardless of your relationship status.
Can you work with me and my partner?
Yes! I've worked with many couples, and it's my favorite thing to do!
How do couples sessions differ from individual sessions?
There are three ways that I might structure a couples session different from an individual session.
1. Both partners and I the entire time.
2. The session time divided equally so both partners can work with me individually.
3. The session time divided into thirds, so that each partner works with me individually, and then we all work together.
For high-conflict couples, when something difficult needs to be addressed, or just for a change in pace, I may suggest options #2 or #3.
I see relationships as a "third body." As in there's you, there's your partner, and then there's your relationship. My goal in all of my couples sessions is to help improve the couple's relationship as a whole, whether it be through communication tips and tricks, conflict-management strategies, or giving you both a space to discuss things in a safe environment.
My job in a couples coaching session is to remain unbiased and nonjudgmental. I promise I don't pick sides! I will also push you both to be your best both individually as well as for the greater health of your relationship.
What if my partner doesn't want to attend?
This can be a very sad thing indeed, but it does happen.
Getting third party help often comes with a lot of stigma attached. "If we get this help, that means we shouldn't be together," is what I hear often. This is ABSOLUTELY not true. Anyone—and I mean ANYONE—can benefit from learning new relating strategies or getting guidance from an objective third party.
If your partner is unwilling to attend coaching sessions, I strongly encourage you to consider attending on your own. I have seen for some couples that when one partner starts exhibiting positive changes, the other partner feels encouraged to attend themselves. All that matters is that you get some help, regardless of whether your partner attends.
What is the difference between individual/couples counseling and coaching?
Coaching, which is what I do, is very results-oriented, which means you WILL receive advice, suggestions, and tools to help you get the result you want. That is one major difference between coaching and counseling.
While we will discuss the past as it is relevant to your present, we work more on getting you to the destination you envision for yourself or what you and your partner envision for your relationship. Every session will end with specific recommendations as part of an action plan for you or you and your partner to follow. Following through on these action plans are integral to your or your and your partner's continued success.
That being said, I am not qualified to diagnose mental health issues or prescribe medicine. If these are things you think you may need, you would benefit from working with a mental health counselor.
What is your professional background?
Tara is an educator, certified relationship coach, and writer. She has a Bachelor's degree from Rhodes College (2008) and a Master's from the University of Memphis (2012), along with coaching certifications from Transformation Academy and courses fully accredited by Complementary Therapists Accredited Association (CTAA). She's worked with dozens of individuals and couples since her practice began in 2016, and she's helped millions of people through her blog posts and videos on Tiktok and Instagram.
Do I/we need to commit to a certain number of coaching sessions?
Nope! There are some individuals and couples I see for one-offs, and others I see weekly. It is really dependent on your/your relationship's needs and how much time and effort you/you and your partner have to commit to follow through on your individualized action plan.
I will say that it can take up to six months to see REAL change, so keep that in mind when you begin a coaching process and that planning to be invested for at least six months will help you see the greatest impact.
How many sessions will I/we need?
That is entirely dependent on you or you and your partner.
I recommend that you attend at least two sessions. This will give me a good sense of you and what you need and give you a good start for following through on your action plan.
For couples, three sessions is the minimum I recommend. Some couples are great after three, but many see the best results after they attend at least five sessions. If you are working through many issues or issues connected to deep attachment wounds, ten sessions may be a good number to plan for.
Where is your practice located?
My husband and I live outside of Memphis, TN, but don't let that worry you! I meet with ALL of my clients now via Zoom or phone calls.