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30 Books You Can Use for Any Relationship Issue

Recommendations from a Relationship Coach

None of these are perfect and some I don’t even totally agree with, but I recommend them here because I believe there’s enough good to outweigh the bad.

Think of approaching these books with a “I’ll take what I like and leave the rest” mindset.

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Dating (women)

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov

Act like a Lady, Think like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment by Steve Harvey

Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix

Dating (men)

(warning: shameless plug) Stop Wasting Your Time on Women Who Don’t Want You by me

Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson

Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix


Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner

Better Relationships/Marriages

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Seven Principles That Make Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everythingby Neil Pasricha

Parenting & Your Long-Term Relationship

All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood by Jennifer Senior

When Partners Become Parents: The Big Life Change for Couples by Carolyn Pape Cowan

The Second Shift: Working Families and the Revolution at Home by Arlie Hochschild and Anne Machung

Going Through a Tough Time

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie


Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair by Michele Weiner-Davis

Infidelity: Why Men and Women Cheat by Dr. Kenneth Paul Rosenberg

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating by Robert Weiss

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide by Tracy Schorn

When You’re The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know by Tammy Nelson

Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them by Dave Carder


Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott

Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse by Jackson MacKenzie

The Divorce Recovery Workbook: How to Heal from Anger, Hurt, and Resentment and Build the Life You Want by Mark S. Rye and Crystal Dea Moore

The Break Up Manual for Men: How to Recover from a Serious Break Up, Become Stronger and Get Back into Life by Andrew Ferebee


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