How to Fight Fairly With Your Partner

Service Description

Do you and your partner... *yell/raise voices, *name-call ("you're such a..."), *bring up multiple things at once (you started fighting about the dishes, but then you start arguing about something that happened the previous week), *blame ("if you hadn't done...."), *bring up issues at inopportune times ("I know it's 10 pm, but I want to talk about this NOW."), *threaten to break up/divorce, *use words like "always" or "never" ("You ALWAYS do this..."), *shut down/give the silent treatment, *seem to always be fighting about the same thing(s), OR *never seem to come to an adequate resolution after a fight? If you answered YES to any of the above questions, you and your partner are likely stuck in a pattern of unfair fighting. Unfair fights are loud, unproductive, and unkind. They often develop from some combination of the following types of thinking: 1. I hate conflict, so I will avoid it as much as possible. 2. I'm right, and you're wrong. 3. I've got to win, or I'll be the loser. Fighting fairly with your partner involves learning certain skills that many of us have never learned or seen in action. In my work with couples, I've seen that learning these key skills can dramatically improve how a couple navigates issues, communicates, and resolves disagreements. In this hour-long live workshop, we will cover: *What is unfair fighting? *Unfair fighting styles *What is fair fighting? *How to write up a fair fighting contract *How to practice fair fighting *Helpful ways to avoid/navigate recurring issues *Common issues that come up when learning how to fight fairly *Q&A PLUS you'll receive: *a worksheet that you and your partner can complete to better understand your own unfair fighting styles *a fillable and downloadable .pdf to write your own fair fighting contract NOTE: If you cannot attend this live Zoom workshop, the replay will be sent to all registered following the event.